Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Oh, the irony!




Now, I know there are a lot of Third Wavers out there who will take umbrage at me for taking umbrage at the cover of this book (and Third Wave feminism in general). But, and correct me if I'm wrong here, isn't one of the most important planks of feminism (in all its iterations) the moving away from woman-as-sex-object? Maybe I missed a memo or something, but I kinda thought that's what I signed on for.

I know some of you will simply dismiss me as a crusty old Second Waver who needs to join the sex-positive revolution, and to you folks I say, simply and very calmly, "shut up." I am not anti-sex. Nor am I anti-pleasure or anti-the-choice-to-whatever. I just think that if you cared about women's equality as much as about selling books, you would think twice (and maybe even three or four times) before writing a book about feminism and placing a naked woman on the front. I especially dig the subtitle of the book: "A Young Woman's Guide to Why Feminism Matters." I would venture to say that feminism matters because of this book cover.

Now, lest you all think I'm some rigid feminist hypocrite, let me state that I believe that feminism is about all sorts of freedoms to choose, even the freedom to choose to put a naked woman on the cover of a book about feminism. I also think that women ought to be able to choose to do whatever they want to do with their bodies, including promoting themselves as sex objects. I'm not saying that women shouldn't have these choices. I just think that if they were really interested in equality, they wouldn't WANT to choose these things.

Because, no matter how you slice it, choices have consequences. And those consequences often aren't realized only at the individual level. A woman's choice to wear high heels, short skirts and a face fulla makeup doesn't only affect how people see HER. It affects how people see WOMEN. She might as well wear a sandwich board and advertise the Patriarchy. Likewise, when a feminist author chooses the naked torso of a woman to grace the cover of her book, she encourages people to see women as nothing more than naked body parts. Which, to me anyway, is about as unfeminist as you can get.

Like it or not, we are representatives of our identity groups, and we are accountable to each other. I try to do my part by not wearing the uniform the Patriarchy has assigned to me. Because that uniform is awfully constricting, flattering on way too few bodies, and serves mostly to titillate men and make women easier to catch (on accounta high heels are hard to run in). Also, I swear and use power tools and show my hairy legs in public, so I'm doing my share to represent "other" versions of womanness. What have YOU done for feminism lately?

I'm not asking you to give up your FREEDOM to choose the things that genuinely bring you pleasure. All I'm asking is that you check yourself in the metaphorical mirror once in awhile and ask yourself, "What message am I sending with this?" If you find that the message you're sending is one that suggests women are little more than sex receptacles, I urge you to reconsider. Does choosing to send that message feel good? Does it feel better than the alternative messages you could be sending? Does it make you feel good enough to outweigh the expense to other women? 'Cause, like, I don't always feel like picking up your tab.

Monday, February 26, 2007

Friday Weigh In, 2/23/07

So, I wasn't actually near a scale on Friday morning for my weekly weigh-in. I weighed in at 199.5 last Wednesday, and then MonkeyPants and I went on the road (which is not generally good for the diet).

I ate tempeh-based meals twice on Thursday, and when we stopped on the way to New York and on the way back, we split a turkey sub at Quizno's. And the morning that I was on my own for breakfast, I got a package of Special K cereal and a quart of skim milk from the gas station. We packed our own Weight Watchers-friendly snacks and were pretty good about sticking to them (except for the donut we each had in the car on the way home...). All in all, it was pretty decent.

For our Friday night free night, we ordered Chinese food. We should know better. It sticks with ya for awhile on accounta all the sodium. Saturday morning I weighed in at 201.0. This morning the scale said 200.5. That makes 12 pounds altogether, so whatever.

I gotta say that I am most impressed with myself for not falling completely off the WWagon. I wanted to, believe me. Saturday I wanted to eat the leftover Chinese food and some of the remaining donuts (you didn't think we bought just one, did you?). But I didn't. I was sensible and conscious. So, bully for me. And for MP, who wanted to order pizza last night but changed her mind and had a soy "chicken" patty instead.

You can say it. We're awesome.

Saturday, February 24, 2007

Getting to know me

I like answering questions about myself. And since no one asked, I'm asking them of myself. I found the list on someone else's blog and thought it looked like a more interesting list than I usually see. So, here goes...


1. The phone rings. Who are you hoping it is? I don't hear the phone ring.

2. When shopping at the grocery store, do you return your cart? Yes, because I like to be helpful. Also, I worked at a grocery store for a number of years, and I hated rounding up stray carts.

3. In a social setting, are you more of a talker or a listener? Depends on who else is there. With friends, I'm usually the talker. With new people, I'm usually the listener.

4. If abandoned alone in the wilderness, would you survive? I don't watch Survivor for nuthin'.

5. Do you like to ride horses? My aunt Susan took me riding a couple of times, and I loved it. Mostly I think I loved doing something special with her.

6. Did you ever go to camp as a kid? Girl Scout camp once. Hated it. Everything was damp, and I was overheard saying something bad about one of the chaperones, who happened to be my friend's mom. It was uncomfortable.

7. What was your favorite board game as a kid? I remember playing Sorry! a lot. And Monopoly, which I liked for some reason. And Candyland.

8. If a sexy person was pursuing you, but you knew he/she was taken what would you do? Well, since I'm taken too, there's not much of a problem.

9. Are you judgmental? Yes. I'm not proud of it.

10. Would you date someone with different religious beliefs? Done it. Any religious belief is "different" to me.

11. Are you continuing your education? Formally? Perhaps someday. Informally, I learn new shit all the time.

12. Do you know how to shoot a gun? I shot at and hit a clay pigeon during hunter safety class in seventh grade. Haven't touched a gun since. But I think I would like to go to a shooting range and practice with a handgun. For protection purposes only...when I wrestle someone else's gun away from him.

13. If your house was on fire, what's the first thing you'd grab? The partner, then the cats. Then my wallet.

14. How often do you read books? Mostly every night before going to bed. Occasionally on the bus.

15. Do you think more about the past, present or future? Now that Chris is job-searching, I get to think about the future. Which is a nice distraction from the present.

16. What is your favorite children's book? I used to love the book about Prince Bertram the Bad. And the Richard Scarry books. And I get a kick out of Never Tease a Weasel.

17. How tall are you? 5'2"

18. Where is your ideal house located? Somewhere near my ideal job.

19. Last person you talked to? Chris

20. When was the last time you were at Olive Garden? Hmm...right before I moved from Iowa City. It was with Becky and Colleen as a going away luncheon.

21. What are your keys on your key chain for? Unlocking things.

22. What did you do last night? Paid my car registration, got groceries, ate Chinese food, and caught up on reading all the blogs I missed while I was out of town.

23. Do you like mustard? In very small quantities.

24. Do you like your mom or dad? They're the best parents I could have asked for. Aside from loving them, I like them very much.

25. How long does it take you in the shower? Depends on how tired I am. Sometimes I like to sit down and hang out awhile.

26. What movie do you want to see right now? Pan's Labyrinth.

27. What did you do for New Year's? Took my parents to the airport. Fretted about the warning light that came on in the car. Can't remember much else.

28. Do you think The Grudge was scary? I didn't see it.

29. Do you own a camera phone? Chris has it.

30. Who did you vote for on American Idol? I've never voted.

Primary Roundup


If the Democratic primary were held today, for whom would you vote?
Joe Biden
Wesley Clark
Hillary Clinton
Chris Dodd
John Edwards
Al Gore
Mike Gravel
Dennis Kucinich
Barack Obama
Bill Richardson
Other
No Clue
  
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Celebrity Crush Montage - Male Edition

Saturday, February 17, 2007

What's the opposite of "nether regions"?

My, my, my. I certainly wasn't expecting this. Kinda like I wasn't expecting to see Britney Spears' cue-balled nether regions a month ago. After that (brace for upcoming pun...) flap, I didn't think there was much more the Toxic singer could do to shock me.

But I'll be damned if the girl didn't go and make the drapes match the carpet! That's right, folks. Daring to defy Heidi Klum by being too "matchy-matchy", Britney Spears has shaved her head. When I first read this, I was skeptical. A practical joke, I was sure. Once over my disbelief, though - after all, MSNBC.com wouldn't lead me astray - a more disturbing thought set in: how bad does she look? The image in my mind wasn't pretty. Not pretty at all.

Now, I've been no fan of Britney's style over the years, but I've been especially critical of her look of late. I didn't care about the baby weight, but her insistence on fake blonde hair (and even the brown hair looked bad), too-tight tanks, oversized sunglasses, stupid hats, and the I-just-got-outta-bed hairstyle really inspired acid reflux. Witness:






I know that pointing out all these things is kinda judgy for someone who proclaims not to buy into the Beauty Myth, but someone tryin' to make a career comeback hasta look like she cares. I'm just sayin'.

But even though Britney's style has historically repulsed me, I was sure this would be worse. How could it not be? Not that I'm opposed to women with shaved heads in general - Demi Moore, Natalie Portman, and my friend Jess are examples of women who wore the look very well. I genuinely dig women who have the guts to shave off their femininity and put it out there for the world to see. I just didn't think it would look good on Britney. Britney, the naughty schoolgirl who appealed to pedophiles the world over a few short years ago, the former only-slightly-better half of one of the grossest couples in Celebrityland, the former poster girl for exploitative femininity. Bald was a look I just didn't think she could pull off.

But when I'm wrong, I say I'm wrong. And I think I was wrong. The limited footage I've seen of her recent visit to a tattoo parlor makes her look pretty good. I will go out on a limb and even say she looks better than before. Her head has a nicer shape than I was expecting, and the absence of all that blondeness has really brought life to her face. I think she could use a funky pair of glasses to complete the look, but it ain't half bad. Take a look for yourself.




Now, if we could only make her politics match her new look...

Celebrity Crush Montage - Female Edition